Direct your children onto the right path and when they are older, they will not leave it.
Proverbs 22:6 NLT
If you are like me, I often wonder if my children really listen and hear what I am saying to them. Have you ever noticed when you are talking to your children, they begin by looking at you, but their eyes begin to look at something else or they begin to squirm around? You begin to wonder if the child is listening and hearing what you are saying or if they are “pretending” to listen and hear. As a mother of four, one adult, one teenager, one “tween” and one youth, I often wonder if they are really hearing and listening or pretending.
The Bible says we are to guide our children in the right way to go, so when they are grown they will remember what we have taught them. Our family has Bible study every night before the children go to bed. We study different books of the Bible, ( now we are studying the Gospel of John). Before beginning the study, I say, “Lord, please help me to explain your Word so that my children will understand. Lord, please let them be listening to You through me. In Jesus name I pray, Amen”.
When I read a verse that really hits me and I believe God wants me to explain this verse in great detail to the children, I will stop and we will spend the rest of our study time on that particular verse. The two oldest look at me as I’m explaining, but the two youngest, well sometimes I wonder if they are in the same room with me! I pray this prayer after, “Father, I thank you for your Word which is power, truth and life for those who read it. I thank you that my children have heard, listened and understand Your instructions. I pray they will remember what You have taught them Father so as they grow older, they will always remember and not depart from it. In Jesus name we pray, Amen”.
Well, I always have my little talk with Jesus everyday. Part of my talk is asking Him to show me in His way that my children are hearing, listening and understanding what is being taught to them about God, Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit. You know, when you have your talk with Jesus, your answers do not come right away, but they do come. Sometimes in unexpected ways.
My youngest son came up to me the other day. He is really intrigued about his shadow. Everytime he sees his shadow he says, “Mom, look there is my shadow. Isn’t it cool”? I smile and laugh and say, “well yes it is”. I think it is the cutest thing. Well, this time he saw his shadow and said, “Mom, you know my shadow is always with me, even when I can’t see it”. I just looked at him and then he said this, “You know, my shadow is like God. I can not see Him, but He is always with me wherever I go”. I tell you, tears swelled up in my eyes and began streaming down my face! I said, “yes honey, you are so right.” He ran away just as happy as could be while I was still standing there crying. I said, “thank-you Lord, my baby is really listening and hearing.”
You know, just when we think our children are not listening or hearing, they really are. We as parents may question whether or not they are listening and hearing and this is natural. But, when you “have your little talk with Jesus” and ask Him to allow you to see your children through His eyes, you see them in a whole new way. Children do listen to you. We as parents must be saying, doing and living the way God instructs us to live. When our children see us living right, they will live right as they grow older.
Remember, we set the examples for our children. We are their physical role models. God is our spiritual model that we as parents must follow. Are you being a positive role model to your children? When they grow up, will they try their best to do right? To live right? To trust in God? To have faith in God? In 2nd Timothy 3:14,15 it says, “ But you must remain faithful to the things you have been taught. You know they are true, for you know you can trust those who taught you. You have been taught the holy Scriptures from childhood, and they have given you the wisdom to receive the salvation that comes by trusting in Christ Jesus”.
Ask yourself this question: “if my child being taught the right way”? If not, it is my prayer that you begin teaching your child the right way to live which is God’s way. The greatest “parenting guide” I know is The Holy Bible. You can not go wrong with God’s Word.
(scripture from New Living Translation)