My daughter Jailee is sweet, compassionate and so respectful. Her teachers say “they wish they could have a whole room full of Jailynn’s”. That always makes me smile. She is my baby girl whom God has most graciously blessed me with.
As parents we are to love and protect our children right? Well, how does one protect their teenage daughter from the sting of rejection and betrayal? Wow! What a question right? Let me tell you the story so you can better understand.
When Jailee comes home from school, she is always smiling, always telling me how great and “awesome” her day was and about the events of the day. This usually takes about an hour, which I love because that let’s me know she can talk to me about everything. I love that! Well, last Friday when she came home, she did not have a beautiful smile on her face nor did she say one word. This was my que that something was wrong.
I said, “what’s wrong, Jailee?” She said, “nothing” in the quietest of voices. I gave her that momma “you know you are not fooling me. I know something is wrong so tell me what it is” look. You know what I am talking about. She still would not tell me. I went and gave her a hug because momma knew something was wrong. She just broke down in tears. Oh, Lord, help me to ease her pain. Help me to let her know everything will be all right.
When she calmed down, she said she had a crush on a boy at school. (I did not tell her I already knew it). She said that some of her friends went to him and told him about her crush. They in return came back and told Jailee that “he thought of her as a sister and nothing more.” She was crushed! She had kept this a secret for so long and now her “so called” friends had let it out.
Oh if only I could put a protective bubble around her so she would not experience the pains of life. If only I could shelter her forever but, I know that I can’t. As much as I want to protect her and keep her from the pains of this world, I can not. How do you prepare your daughter for heartbreak? A friends betrayal? You try your best to tell them about life before it happens, but it is so different “when” it happens. O Lord, what do I do.
I held her in my arms tightly and I thought back to the time when she was 3 years old and had fallen and skinned her knee. Then I could say, “mommy will make the boo boo go away, it will get better” and put a band aid on it, give her a kiss and a big hug and away she went. A band aid was not going to cover wound.
I took her beautiful face in my hands and simply said this, “Baby, your friends should not have told him you had a crush on him. They thought they were probably helping you and did not realize it would make matters worse. Don’t be mad at them. They thought they were helping. As for him, well maybe he was so embarrassed that those were the only words that could come out of his mouth. I believe Monday when you get back to school everything will be all right. Remember, God has someone he created especially for you. Yes, you will get crushes on boys and yes, some will break your heart, but remember, God will always, always love you and will never, ever break your heart”. She smiled and gave me a big hug and said, “I love you Mommy, thank you”.
About an hour later her cell was going off like crazy. It was the friends who blabbed asking for her forgiveness. They felt so bad. I told her it was “guilt” that was eating them up. She said, “what do I do”. I said, “forgive them and let it go”. She did.
Monday came and I could not wait for her to get home! She came rushing through the door and said, “this was an awesome day” with that beautiful smile on her face. The boy said he was embarrassed and did not know what to say and those words just came out. She said she understand and everything was “cool” between them. She told the “friends” she forgave them and guess what Mom? I like someone else.” Away she went to her room singing so happily.
I thought, “Lord, help me through these teenage years”……………………………………………………………
‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” (Revelation 21:4 NIV)